A Very Modern Role Model: Carla DiBello On The Evolution of Motherhood
The entrepreneur and style insider shares how maternal expectations have changed over the decades both spiritually and scientifically
When reflecting on how mothers are perceived in this day and age compared to generations prior, it’s pretty evident that significant shifts have happened in the last decade or two. The essence of motherhood has been redefined as well as a mother’s sense of self. Women are not only waiting longer to have children, but our parenting styles have changed – in part due to access to more information and education as well as a completely different work-life balance from the generations before us.
In an era defined by rapid technological advancements and evolving societal norms, the perception of motherhood has also undergone a profound transformation. In many ways, we are reclaiming our autonomy – flipping the script on not just maternal expectations, but what it means to be a woman as a whole.
Gone are the days when motherhood was synonymous with a predefined timeline and societal pressures. The decline in global birth rates and the rise of women prioritising personal autonomy and career advancement, has resulted in a shift in our perception of motherhood. And as we continue to embrace the freedom to choose our own path, whether that involves starting a family or pursuing other aspirations – as I have done so far – the traditional family model is giving way to a multitude of diverse narratives
Reflecting on my own upbringing, I recognise the myriad of maternal figures who, in addition to my own mother, played a pivotal role in shaping my identity and nurturing my growth. From confidantes who offered unwavering support to mentors who guided me through the intricacies of life, there are many women in my life who exemplify the essence of motherhood beyond biological ties. And while I have no children of my own, I hope that I too am able to provide that kind of guidance and support to the young people in my life. The realisation that motherhood extends far beyond giving birth is incredibly empowering. I have come to see motherhood as the act of nurturing, guiding, and fostering growth in all its forms.
For many women like myself, navigating the intersection of career aspirations and maternal instincts poses a complex and deeply personal journey. Just like our lives as a whole, no one woman’s experience with motherhood is the same as another’s. As a career woman, I find myself at a crossroads, contemplating the prospect of motherhood amid societal expectations and personal aspirations. But unlike previous generations, technological advances such as egg freezing afford me the luxury of extending the window for motherhood, allowing for intentional, deliberate decision-making.
And even if I opt to not have my own child in the future, the digital age has facilitated a paradigm shift in the way we nurture and foster connections within our communities. While traditional notions of motherhood emphasise biological connection, contemporary women – and society as a whole – are redefining caregiving through community support and mentorship. In my own experience, I’ve worked hard to cultivate bonds with my nieces as well as the children of friends, making an effort to be a nurturing presence in their lives.
I believe that with the exponential surge in tech advancement, society as a whole will continue to redefine motherhood and our roles within it. In embracing the multifaceted nature of motherhood, we possess the power to utilise the tools we have right now in order to reshape the narrative for future generations. How we nurture the younger generations of today will directly affect how they nurture the next generation, shaping not only the future of motherhood but also the fabric of society itself. So, in the name of the future, it is crucial for us to cultivate empathy, resilience, community, and compassion, laying the foundation for a more inclusive, equitable, and nurturing world for generations to come.
Lead Image- Photography: Efraim Evidor. Styling: Seher Khan. Make-up: Suror Al-Saraf. Hair: Arlene at Sisters Beauty Lounge. Special thanks to the Lana – Dorchester collection
Carla wears: Blazer, Dhs800, Limé. Skirt, Dhs945, Marella. Shoes; Jewellery, both Carla’s own
From Harper’s Bazaar Arabia’s May 2024 Issue